In the 3rd article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we are going to bring kindness and unkindness to the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is related to humility and learning and unkindness has been arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness meaning they will eventually learn to forgive all specialness which will be what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation relates to everyone who is the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in the mind when we repress our fear and guilt as opposed to forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others who are really a part of us in reality.
There are two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” For me, these must certanly be required reading and continuing study for anyone who is a critical Course student. The following passage says all of it:
When you set aside the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course could be pared down to at least one simple rule: Be kind. If you are not kind, then not only are you currently not practicing the Course, there’s no way you may also begin to comprehend it. No matter how brilliant your understanding of its metaphysics might be, if you are not being kind toward another person, you’re not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Despite this admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to genuinely practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness that they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been the absolute most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Choose to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness underneath the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The lack of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to all except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness can not be understood here within the ability of dualism so long as specialness is continuously chosen because the ego hails from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to identify this in regards to the ego, and what all that thought system is capable of accomplishing, is a thing that hinders our progress with the Course. We must be ready to go through the ego with the Holy Spirit – the real Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing could be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also discusses the foundation of a person’s unkind behavior is the same fear (and repressed guilt) that’s working in our own mind and that’s what unites us. We also provide the same right-mind and the same ability to decide on between them. Choosing to be kind does not make us different or better; rather this means we’re willing to apply the “kind principles” of the Course so that individuals can learn to comprehend everything it’s teaching. It’s only a question of priority.
He goes on to state that in learning how exactly to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one a course in miracles questions and answers. They’re a part of you. You are not different.” This goes directly to one’s heart of the ego’s thought system wherein the concept of difference is how a ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness is the ego. What he says becomes clear if you really study and practice the kind forgiveness of the Course!
A serious student of the Course wants to learn what this means. These students prefer to be a happy learner with the only true teacher – the Holy Spirit – as opposed to a spiritually special teacher of the ego in any form. They’re happy to master from Him how exactly to be without any the burdens related to denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure in the beginning, because salvation isn’t understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you will lay out the burden of denying truth. This is the burden that’s terrible, and not the truth (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there’s a distinction involving the “Self” which will be our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This is a key point to comprehend as the very first accepts the big event God gave us through being God-created; however the latter is self-created and completely determined by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they’re the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To take into account the possibly of the being correct and in need of correction restores hope to the mind as it points to just how out.
When a spiritually special Course teacher (a kind of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they’re being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they’re highly unlikely to see it that way. They’re also not likely to believe that it is kind for anyone to have boundaries using them because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are very great. However, honestly taking a look at the entire world, we see it is full of the fragmented Sonship who is anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant in the world in addition to in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we won’t learn the Course until we elect to be kind.
Our behaviors would be the demonstration which mind we have chosen (God or the ego). The ego is a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it’s tied directly to kindness:
Without anxiety the mind is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom can not be learned by tyranny of all kinds (T-8.IV.7).
It is also unkind to change the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, a total thought system. If you think you recognize that, you don’t. Knowing you do, you will automatically be kind for you recognize the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It is a question of priority.”
When Kindness Calls
To sum up, let’s turn back now to Mr. Wapnick and his book, “The Message Of A Course In Miracles: Few Choose To Listen,” and to Chapters 4 and 6 on spiritual specialness. I’ll highlight some important passages you start with an extremely telling quote. First, however, i’d like to also add this two-book set (including, “Few Choose To Listen”) should also be required ongoing study for serious Course students:
“Love is frightening because it’s all-encompassing and within it there’s no room for specialness or individual uniqueness.”
He goes on to indicate that if we are tempted to call attention to what we think is some deficiency, or lack, we’re seeking to make such limitation real and into a thing that divides the Sonship. The rock of salvation is that no one can lose so another gains, i.e., there’s nothing to take from another, not really their success. However, we don’t appreciate this until we have spent the mandatory time invested in learning why these words actually are correct and their true meaning. What our bodies look like doing tells us which internal teacher we have chosen – the ego or the Holy Spirit. The ego is limitations, judgment, specialness and separation – the opposite of the Sonship as One.
Once we aren’t kind, we’re not Course students or teachers of God (the Course as our path). When kindness calls, it must be chosen as kindness contributes to miracle-mindedness. Unkindness is of the ego.